It is grossly unfair that I have no clue what sound your front door makes when you shut it. I completely lost track of your shoe collection. I have no tactile memory of the furniture in your new home. Because I never had the chance to sit on that sofa. How dark is dark during the night? Is silk the same or out of fashion? I wouldn’t know the early morning smell on the terrace or the noises from the pool. Is there an echo in the hallway and if yes am I part of that echo? Appearances and that party hat won’t help much.